The Ex Game

Many of you are reading this asking, 'what are The Ex Games?' Well let me help you out. My cousin and I came up with the saying back in 2010. And it's about the games your ex will play, to get back with you or to make sure you don't move on first. We have 3 signs you should look out for.
By the way, it can be done when a relationship is ending.

#3: Telling You What You Want To Hear.
    You know how all you wanted, was to be told your loved? And the person you are/was with didn't do it. Well now that the relationship is over or ending, they are about to play every hand they can. From calling you all the time, down to using your own words against you. (I.E: You told me, you would love me forever. Or Baby I love you and your all I want) Bull! Where was all this love and understanding when we was together. And you didn't care how I felt when I first told you that, so why bring it up now? The game player doesn't like to lose. And you can't be done, until they tell you that your done.

#2: Being Too Friendly
     
   Now it's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex. But be careful about how friendly, the two of you are with each other. If have moved on and gotten into a new relationship, don't open up to your ex about your relationship problems. Why? Because some ex's will that all of that information and use it later on down the line. Telling you how they never, did that type of wrong by you (and they did). How you never cried this much when y'all, was together ( when you cried more). By doing this to you, they make you feel like maybe you messed up by letting them go.

#1: Sex Has Power

  Sex comes with so much power! And some of us don't even know it. If your trying to end a relationship or already have, keeping the sex going is a bad, bad, bad idea. You want to be able to have a clean get away from that relationship.  You don't want that person to have any type of power over you…

So if you want to stay away from the Ex Games. Don't fall for everything your told, if you want to stay friends that's okay, but give to much information. And keep sex out of it.

Love Letter To My Husband

When I was a little girl I never thought about, having kids or getting married. As the years pasted me by and I was disrespected and put down, any thoughts of that stuff was pushed away.
After high school I had so many plans, to move out of Baltimore and never come back to this place and I just wanted to start over, but God had other plans for me. He took me to a place where I had worked so hard to stay away from, he showed me who my real friends were and how the man I thought I was in love with, was no good for me. But something so amazing and beautiful was about to enter my life. January 30th 2010 , you came into my life. You was so funny, caring, outgoing and open with me, that if nothing else come from us meeting, I would have been happy to just have you as a friend. But yet again God had something else in mind for us. Time was passing us by and with everyday that would pass us, we become so much more closer. And I don't know what happened but I felt myself falling in love with you, and once I told you that information and you said you felt the same way.... I just knew this was a start of something great.

You have been by my side when my days were hell and you stood by me when my dreams changed over and over again. Not one time did you put me down or even laugh at me. With ever fight we have had, you have never  let me walk away, from a once in a life time type of love. We are not perfect and we are still learning what make each of us tick, but we have so much love for one another that it's no question to me that we will see 50+ years of marriage.
I see now that the reason we fight so hard, is because we love so damn hard. And I want you to know that even if, it looks like I am about to walk out of the ring, I could never let you fight this fight on your own.
I dream of our children and I dream of our life after all of the hard times and test we will be put through, and let me tell you, we are so happy.
I want to be the best wife for you because your the best husband for me.

I love you Aaron Reid and i have no problem tell the world how i feel about you.

Happy 1 year Anniversary

   Love your Mrs 

5 Things You Should Know About Online Dating

We all see the TV shows like MTV's. 'Catfish' or ID's 'Date From Hell'. But online dating isn't always on Fox news. It's all about knowing how to keep yourself safe. Having an idea on what to do and what not to do.

Now a days dating website's are popping up everywhere. And it is hard to pick from them all. Well I set with my husband and come up, with 5 things you should know about online dating. The 5 things we came up with, are to make sure you have a safe and fun experience with online dating.

1) Don't Give Up Too Much Information: You want to save some information for the first date or if it's never a date at all. Why give someone apart of your life, if your not sure your going to meet. It's no need to give it all away on your page. You want to be sure things like, your phone number, home or work address isn't on your page. Keeping that information safe is most important.

2) Be Careful Of The Pictures You Post:  Women you want to make sure the pictures you post, are sending out the right message about you. Photos of you with almost nothing on, does get you the attention you want or feel you need, but a lot of times it brings the wrong attention. Like men who only want you for your body. Just make sure the pictures you post are the image you want out here. Men you also have to be careful. Posting photos of 'money' 'cars' and big homes, are not the way to go. If you don't have it that makes you a lie. And if you do have it, that will get you a gold digger. So if you have it or not, don't let it make or brake you. You want someone who loves you, for you and not the things you have.

3) Stay Away From Sex Talk: Yes we all talk about and have sex. The thing is timing. You don't or should I say shouldn't make you first couple of conversations about, what you can and will do in the bedroom.  When any relationship starts like that, the other person could careless, if you are in school or if your smart and outgoing. All they want is to try you out. When meeting someone on or offline, show them other sides of who you are, and if they learn that the sex will come later.

4) Knowing That It's Real: When you are dealing with online dating, you want to make sure people are who they say they are. So before setting up a date, ask if they are willing to video chat with you. If they say they don't have a web camera, then ask them to place your name on some paper ... have them hold it up next to or under their face and take a picture, and send it to you. And to be fair you do the same. Doing this help both of you see it's real.

Now this last one, has to be my favorite. It's something we all use, but never seem to think of using when online dating. Number 5.

5) Google It Baby:  We all know that the internet, helps to pull up all types of information. So why not use it to help you be sure of what, it is your dealing with,You can look up anything. You can look up new or old cases, check the sex offenders list to make sure you and if you have kids are safe. Now be sure to let the person know, you will be looking into this stuff. That way it gives them the chance to tell you anything, you know.

        ' Who Needs A Degree When Your School'n Life

Dear Me

Dear Me,

You have no idea what life has for us. It's so much good and bad coming our way, and if only I was able to get this to you sooner, maybe things could be different. 1-4 we will learn that life, isn't always sunshine .. we will be sent to spend most of your time with a great lady named Ms. Annette, she will love us and give some much of herself to us. 5-now A young woman will step up, as our sister and teach us, about boys and love and a lot of other things, we need to know about life. We will learn at a young age that men will let us down, because our father will pick his wife, over fighting for a relationship with you and I. We will see and hear a men yell and beat on our mother, but like good girls we will block it all out, as if it never happened. As we get older, we will become hard and unhappy, because we will be talked about because we are different, and over looked because people think we have it all together. And I guess in some ways we do. We become so good at playing happy and so good at over looking bad things that no one sees the pain. We will have so many great people come in and out of our lives, that we just become a better person.  We have love / hate relationship with our older sister for most of our life but at one point we get that together. We have a long hard road with our mom, because for the most part all she is to us, is a back we see walking away. In and out of clubs. It's no need to tell it all because you will see. (Tip: the less you care the better). We will be touched by a older Guy but we will not tell, because no one will believe us. But we are strong and smart and loving, to bad that means nothing to most people. By the time we are in high school ... we would have been tested so many times people wouldn't believe it. 17-19 we will be in a unhealthy ass relationship. Where we become someone we're not. But we will graduate will great grades and we start to slowly get back to who we are. By our 20th birthday, we are back to business. A GREAT man comes into our life and helps to make things better. He makes us feel good about life and helps grow a little day-by-day. We marry him, August 18,2012.

It is so much I want to tell you, but I know I can't. But let me just tell you this.  Don't change a thing that happens to us, it all helps make the women we become. We now have great friends, a loving husband and the family that comes with it. We are not perfect and we still look for answers that, we have to wait for. But over all life is good and we are just working and planning to make it better.