Young and Married

So many people feel like, when your about to get married you need to be in your late 20's going into your 30's. You should be in your career filed and stable. But sometimes things don't happen in the order people feel they should. I am a strong believer in (life is going to do what it wants and we need to learn, how to roll with the punches). Getting married is like opening your own business. You go into it with bright eyes and just ready to get things started. But what many people forget is, that hard work is the next step. This is true for marriage as well. The hard work isn't over just because you have the ring, and have had your wedding... The true test and work has just started. And the fact is no matter the age some people can't deal with what comes after the wedding is over and done. You see it in day to day like and on T.V that be coming one, is a bigger deal then most people want  think it is.
So because of this friends and family will feel the need to tell younger couples to wait. I was 19 one month from my 20th birthday, when I started building my friendship with my husband. We both were dealing with crazy break ups, and wasn't ready to be with anyone. I had been single for a year and him about 4 or 5 months. Both ex's were still in the picture and the fact is a friendship was all we needed. But as time passed feelings come from that friendship. But my 21st birthday I was engaged. So many people came to us (well me) saying that I was too young to get married and I needed to take my time and they said all the same things I said at the beginning of this blog. Now I agree with all of that,but I felt my age shouldn't have been a problem. I have seen people get married at 35 and end up not making it a year. I see it like this. If it's meant to be no matter the age, the marriage will work out no matter if you're 18 or 52 . So I say be sure that marriage is really what you both want. If so go to marriage counseling and use that as a way to get all your problems out in the open so you can deal with them head on. The magic isn't in the wedding,but in staying married. So no matter what age you are go and be happy..